Untangling Manipulation Workbook

You know something feels wrong, but you can't quite put your finger on it. You bring up a concern and somehow you end up apologizing. You're walking on eggshells and you don't even know why.
If that sounds familiar, this workbook is for you.
The Untangling Manipulation Workbook helps you identify manipulative patterns in your relationships so you can finally make sense of what you're experiencing. When you can name the behavior, you can trust yourself again.

This workbook is designed to help you:
Recognize common manipulation tactics like gaslighting, love bombing, silent treatment, DARVO, triangulation, and more.

A few little disclaimers:
This workbook can bring up emotions - please go slow.
Choose a past, low-stakes, relationship to start exploring
Not a substitute for therapy or DV resources
You’re allowed to take breaks, skip pages, or come back later. No pressure, ever.

Mostly… I hope this helps you feel less alone, more validated, and more clear about what you’ve lived through.

Inside this 27-page workbook, you will find:
- A Gentle Check-In: A "traffic light" system to help you engage with this work safely and without getting overwhelm.

- Vocabulary for Your Experience: Clear, bite-sized definitions of complex tactics like Gaslighting, DARVO, Love-Bombing, Hoovering, and Triangulation.

- Pattern Recognition: The "Same Pattern, Different Relationship" matrix that shows how these tactics look different in a boss vs. a parent vs. a partner vs. friend.

- Validation Tools: Worksheets to map out "Double Standards," the "Public vs. Private Face," and the "Cycle of Manipulation".

- Emotional Impact Assessment: Checklists to identify things like hypervigilance, walking on eggshells, and chronic exhaustion.

- Visual representations: The "Healthy vs. Unhealthy" relationship jars to clarify what safe love actually looks like.

This is for you if:
- You need help understanding a past experience
- You want to recognize manipulative patterns and red flags
- You are ready to stop blaming yourself for someone else’s behavior

Here are the details!
27-pages in PDF form
Comes in full-color and with a black-and-white version.
Letter size (8.5 × 11 inches).
Digital-fill enabled - use on phone, tablet, or computer (or print it!).
Compatible with GoodNotes, XoDo, Adobe Reader, and more.

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🖨️ You can download and print the workbook, or fill it out digitally on your computer or phone. Apps like XoDo or GoodNotes let you "write" on the PDF on your phone, making it accessible on the go. You can also have it printed at places like Staples or FedEx.

🔐 FOR PERSONAL USE ONLY: All materials and designs are © and property of Dominee Calderon at Self-Love Rainbow LLC. Not for resale or redistribution. You can purchase a Private Use License to use one-on-one with clients. https://selfloverainbow.etsy.com/listing/1169636940

🌈 I am not a mental health professional. These tools are crafted from personal experience and are meant to be used as a peer-to-peer resource. They are not a replacement for professional advice and I always recommend working with a therapist if possible!

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The workbook is in US Letter Size (8.5 x 11 inches) and PDF format.